Leadership is difficult at any level.  The most difficult person to lead though is the person in the mirror. We often think about leading teams and inspiring others, but the most significant leadership journey begins with us. So, how do we lead by example, and why is it essential?

More often than not, people are willing to follow someone who models the behavior they expect from others. Think back to your own life for a second. Whether you learned from your parents or if you’re a parent yourself, you know that kids catch more from what you do than what you say. I know there are habits I have seen in my children that frustrate me, but then I pause and realize they learned it from me.  This can often occur at work as well.

So, let’s explore some practical steps on how to effectively lead by example.

Do It Yourself

First and foremost, if you want your team to accomplish a specific task, whenever possible, do it first yourself. For instance, if you’re asking your team to sell a new product or service, have you personally tried it? If not, you’re creating a credibility gap in your guidance so lean into those with experience to help you. By actively engaging in the process you’re asking your team to follow, you set the standard and model the effort required.

Be Present

When your team is working on a project or facing a challenge, be there with them. Let’s go back to our sales scenario—accompany your team members to meetings and be involved in the discussion. Your presence not only shows your commitment but also provides them with real-time support. It’s about being hands-on and showing that you’re in it together.

Offer Help

Sometimes, your team might need a little extra support. It’s crucial to recognize when to step in and provide assistance. For sales, you might let them lead the conversation, but be ready to help with closing the deal or navigating post-sale details. Offering help reinforces your role as a leader who is invested in their success.

Learn Together

If there’s an area where you lack experience, don’t shy away from learning it alongside your team. Whether it’s selling a new product or tackling a challenging math problem with your child, engage with them in the process. This not only demonstrates that you’re willing to learn and grow but also encourages a culture of continuous improvement.

Live It Out

Finally, no matter what you’re asking of your team, the most important aspect is to live it out. Perfection isn’t the goal—authenticity is. When your team sees you striving to meet the same expectations you set for them, they’re more likely to follow suit. Admit that you’re on a journey too; it’s okay not to have all the answers.

As you reflect on these areas—whether you need to do it yourself, be more present, offer help, learn together, or authentically live out your expectations, which do you need to focus on this week? By improving in just one of these areas, you can enhance your leadership effectiveness and foster stronger relationships with your team. Need help getting an outside perspective of your leadership?  Go here to get a complimentary, powerful coaching session to help you grow your leadership.  Lead Well.

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